The short answer
Stop trading for one week. Not forever. One week. In that week there are five jobs, in this order. Check that nothing is still open and nothing is owed. Tell one person the real number. Add no money. Read the statement and find the one thing that did it. Then, on day seven and not before, decide whether you come back and how small. That is the whole page. The rest is how to do each job, with numbers.
Two things first. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, call or text 988 now. The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline says it is available 24/7/365, and that conversations are free and confidential. And if you have tried to stop trading before and could not, this is the wrong page: read when trading has become gambling, and call the National Problem Gambling Helpline at 1-800-MY-RESET. We sell a trading app. It is not for either of those moments, and it is not for this week.
What do I do in the first hour?
Three checks, then close the platform. You are not fixing anything today. You are making sure the loss has stopped.
| Check | Where to look | Why it matters |
|---|---|---|
| Is anything still open? | Positions | An option you forgot can still move, or expire |
| Is any order still working? | Orders | An order left resting can fill tomorrow, without you |
| Is the balance below zero? | Account balance | Losing money and owing money are different problems |
The third one surprises people. On margin you can lose more than you put in. FINRA says so plainly: be prepared to lose "some of—and potentially more than—the funds you initially deposited."
Here is what that looks like. You deposited $5,000. The balance reads -$300. You lost $5,300, and $300 of it is a bill. FINRA's page says that when an account does not have enough equity, a firm "will expect you to satisfy the deficit as promptly as possible by depositing funds or liquidating positions." The SEC's investor site adds that a firm can sell what is in the account "without informing you in advance," and that "the brokerage firm decides which of your securities to sell."
So if the balance is negative, or there is a margin call on the screen, message your broker today and ask one question: what do I owe, and by when. This guide does not cover what each broker does with a negative balance, because we did not read each broker's agreement.
Then log out. Take the app off your phone for the week. You can put it back in ten seconds on day eight, which is the point.
Should I deposit more money to win it back?
Not this week. This is the one that turns a bad day into a bad year.
There is a name for the pull you are feeling. Two researchers, Thaler and Johnson, ran experiments with real money and found what they called break-even effects: "in the presence of prior losses, outcomes which offer a chance to break even are especially attractive." In plain words, after a loss, a bet that could get you back to zero looks better than it is. Not because it got better. Because you are behind.
Say you lost $4,000. Tonight, any trade that could make $4,000 looks like the door out. It is the same trade you would have called reckless on Monday. The trade did not change. You did.
The arithmetic is also against you. A loss needs a bigger gain to undo it, and the gap grows fast.
| You lost | What is left of $10,000 | Gain needed to get back |
|---|---|---|
| 10% | $9,000 | 11% |
| 25% | $7,500 | 33% |
| 50% | $5,000 | 100% |
| 75% | $2,500 | 300% |
| 90% | $1,000 | 900% |
Check one row. Down 75% leaves $2,500. Getting back to $10,000 means making $7,500 on $2,500, which is 300%. Nobody plans a 300% gain. People only reach for one. The gains are rounded. The drawdown arithmetic, with the formula, is in the risk guide.
So the rule for the week is simple: no deposit for seven days. If money goes in later, it is a decision made on day seven with a plan, not on day one with a feeling.
Am I the only one who blew up an account?
No. Losing is the usual result, and there is a record that says so.
Three researchers followed every person who started day trading in the Brazilian equity futures market between 2013 and 2015 and kept at it for at least 300 days. In their words: "97% of them lost money." Only 0.4% earned more than a bank teller. That is futures in Brazil, not options in the United States, so do not carry the exact number across. Carry the shape.
What it means for you: this did not happen because you are unusually bad at this. What it does not mean: that you will win if you go back. The same paper says, "We find no evidence of learning by day trading." Time in the seat did not fix it for those traders. Something has to change, and the next section is how to find what.
One more line from FINRA, worth reading slowly this week: "you should never fund this type of trading with essential assets." Rent is an essential asset. So is the tax money.
How do I find out what blew up the account?
Download the statement and read it like somebody else's. Do this on day three, not day one. On day one you will read it looking for someone to blame, and the easiest person to find is you.
First, count positions, not rows. If you bought 2 contracts, then 2 more, then sold 4, that is one trade, not three. Group them before you count anything.
Then look for one of five shapes.
| What the statement shows | Its name | What has to change |
|---|---|---|
| One trade is most of the loss | Size | Size comes from the stop, every time |
| Many trades after the first loss, each bigger | Revenge trading | A daily limit that ends the day |
| You added to a trade that was losing | Averaging down | No adding below the entry |
| The exit is far past where you said you would get out | A moved or missing stop | A real stop order, placed with the entry |
| No single bad day, just a slow slide | No edge yet | Smaller, or paper, until the record says otherwise |
A worked example. The account was $8,000 on Friday morning. That day there were fourteen trades. The first three lost $600 between them, a rough morning and nothing more. The next eleven lost $5,900, with the size going from 2 contracts to 10. The account ended the day at $1,500.
Read that again. The account was not lost on a bad idea. It was lost after trade three. A daily limit of $600 would have ended Friday down 7.5%, which is a bad day. Without one it was down 81%, which is a different life.
That shape, the afternoon that gets bigger, is the subject of why you keep trading past your limit. If the shape is the stop, why a stop loss did not trigger tells the four stories apart. And if you kept no notes at all, what to write in a trading journal is nine fields.
Write the answer as one sentence. "I had no number that ended the day." "I took one trade at five times my size." If you cannot say it in a sentence, you have not found it yet.
Can I deduct the loss on my taxes?
In the United States, often in part. It will not bring the money back, but it is real, and people in a bad week forget it.
The IRS puts it this way: if your capital losses are more than your capital gains, the amount you can claim to lower your income is "the lesser of $3,000 ($1,500 if married filing separately)" or your total net loss. And: "If your net capital loss is more than this limit, you can carry the loss forward to later years."
Example. You lost $9,000 this year and had no gains. You claim $3,000 against this year's income and carry $6,000 forward. The IRS page names the forms: Form 8949, then Schedule D.
Two honest limits. This is one page of the IRS's site, not your tax return, and other rules can change the number; this guide does not cover them. And we are not tax advisers. Save every statement now, while you can still log in, and take them to somebody who is.
What does the first week look like, day by day?
One job a day. None of them is a trade.
| Day | The one job | How long |
|---|---|---|
| 1 | The three checks. Log out. Phone app off | 20 minutes |
| 2 | Tell one person the real number | One hard conversation |
| 3 | Download the statements. Group the rows into trades | An hour |
| 4 | Find the shape. Write the one sentence | An hour |
| 5 | Work out what a bad day may cost from now on | 15 minutes |
| 6 | Write the rules, on paper, five at most | 30 minutes |
| 7 | Decide: stop, pause longer, or come back small | As long as it takes |
Day two is the hardest row and the one people skip. Say the number out loud to one person who is not a trader. A loss you carry alone grows. A loss somebody else knows about is just a number.
For day five, the free loss budget and position size calculator does the arithmetic in your browser, for any account. For day six, trading rules you will actually keep has the five.
"Stop" is a real answer on day seven. So is "not yet." Nobody is keeping score of how fast you came back.
When is it safe to trade again?
When five things are true. Not when a date arrives, and not when you feel ready, because you felt ready last time.
- You can say what did it, in one sentence.
- A daily loss limit is written down, as a number, before the open.
- Your size comes from the stop, not from how sure you are.
- The money in the account is money you can lose. All of it.
- A week has gone by with no trades.
Here is what the second and third look like with numbers. You come back with $3,000. You risk 1% a trade, so $30. Your daily limit is three of those, $90. Now a bad day costs 3% of what you started with. Losing the whole $3,000 would take about 33 bad days in a row, not one afternoon. That is the entire trick. You have not become a better trader. You have made the worst day small.
Then the hard part is keeping the limit at 11:40 on a day you are down $90 and certain about the next one. That is a different problem from knowing the number, and it is the one this page cannot solve for you.
Where Degen Pro fits
Not this week. Degen Pro is a Mac app for Interactive Brokers for traders who keep trading and want their own limits enforced. It is not a treatment for gambling, and if you are trying to stop, do not buy it. If you do come back, it does a specific job: the daily budget, the trade count and the stand-down after a run of reds are set before the open and frozen once armed, and on the trade after the limit the app does what you chose that morning, which can be to end the day and lock Trader Workstation and TradingView until the next morning. Position size is worked out from the stop and the budget, not from the last trade. Opening the lock early is possible, as a deliberate act with a typed reason that stays on the record. It gives no signals, never opens a position on its own, and makes no promise about results. It needs a Mac, and Interactive Brokers for the stop and the lock. What it does and costs is on the front page.
The week, on one page
- Day one: nothing open, nothing working, nothing owed. Log out.
- Tell one person the number.
- No deposit for seven days.
- Read the statement on day three. Count trades, not rows. Find the shape.
- Write the daily limit as a number.
- Decide on day seven. "Stop" and "not yet" are both allowed.
None of this is investment, tax or medical advice. Trading involves risk of loss, and on margin the loss can be more than you deposited.